Thursday, April 17, 2008

Here are 2 great blogs that tells exactly what is going on in Ukraine: http://ourukrainianjourney.blogspot.com/

http://doctordavid.wordpress.com/

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Cara - so good to hear from you! Email me guffeyrdatyahoo.com.

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Wednesday, April 16, 2008

My niece Katie turned 9--How can that be?


How does he do that with his eye?


Nice Hair!

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Emma lost her first teeth when she spent the night at our house. You can see the permanent
teeth were already half grown before the baby teeth fell out. She knocked the first one out playing with Matthew and I pulled the second one out five minutes later. Actually Katie's first two teeth that she lost were at our house also, but it was a "little" more dramatic with her.

I made these heart (thanks Jennifer for sending us the molds) shaped pancakes with bananas for breakfast for Matthew and Emma. Notice the peanut butter on this one---Matthew doesn't like syrup because his hands get sticky--actually peanut butter is probably healthier anyway.

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It was a little windy!

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Thursday, April 03, 2008

SAD, SAD NEWS

Last Friday we were told that a family from Virginia showed up in Odessa to Adopt "our boys" Matthew's brothers. We did file a petition in February to keep all the brothers together--officially letting the SDA (State Department for Adoption in Kiev) know that we wanted to adopt them to keep them together, we had actually told them last fall too. The family who is adopting them hosted Alex last summer. We are very sad about all of this, actually crushed would be a better word for it. We asked our facilitator what we could do, he said we could fight the government and maybe have a 50% chance of getting there adoption stopped. But if the boys agreed to the adoption there wasn't anything we could do about it. Alex spent time with this family in VA so he would definitely say yes. Vasya was surprised that it wasn't us who showed up at the orphanage, but in the end said yes also. I don't blame him. The Ukrainian Government has received a large sum of money from UNICEF to stop international adoptions. So Vasya probably saw this as his last chance to get out of the orphanage system, soon he will age out or be thrown out. Apparently Unicef thinks it is better for these kids to rot in orphanages than face the "trauma" of adapting to a new culture. I have talked to several adults who were internationally adopted as children and they said it was one of the best things to happen to them. PLEASE DON"T GIVE MONEY TO UNICEF! So do you think that the orphans of Ukraine are actually seeing any of this money? I DON'T.

We have asked the missionaries to give this family our address, e-mail and phone number so we can maintain contact with the boys and so hopefully in the future Matthew can meet his brothers. But we haven't heard anything from them yet, so either the missionaries haven't gotten around to doing it or the family doesn't want to establish contact. If anyone reading this knows the family please talk to them about us.

So now what????? Do we just sit around and feel sorry for ourselves? Do we continue with an Ukrainian adoption, we can change our dossier and pray that Ukraine continues to allow International Adoptions? We have heard that things are very difficult there right now, the SDA is giving people a very hard time... Not showing them healthy kids, not showing younger kids, not giving out appointments, not showing people what they are requesting. Do we switch to another country? Do we just give up and raise Matthew as an only child? The family adopting Matthew's brothers already has three children, that makes it hurt even more. And what makes it even sadder is that Matthew won't get to grow up with his biological brothers. How do you explain that to a 4 year old who every night prays "God Bless Vasya and Alex and all the orphans"?

I read this on a blog of a family who is going through a tough time also:


I said, "God, I hurt."
And God said, "I know."
I said, "God, I cry a lot."
And God said, "That is why I gave you tears."
I said, "God, I am so depressed."
And God said, "That is why I gave you Sunshine."
I said, "God, life is so hard."
And God said, "That is why I gave you loved ones."
I said, "God, my son died."
And God said, "So did mine."
I said, "God, it is such a loss."
And God said, "I saw my son nailed to a cross."
I said, "God, but your son lives."
And God said, "So does yours."
I said, "God, where are they now?"
And God said, "Mine is on My right and Yours is in the Light."
I said, "God, it hurts."
And God said, "I know."
~Authors K. C. and Myke Kuzmic~

"Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy."- Psalm 126:5

I really don't want to talk about it right now, but feel free to e-mail us or post on the blog.

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jeff & Cara
I was so sad to read your post today. Not being able to adopt Matthew's brothers is like a death for you. Make sure that you take time to grieve - that you allow yourself that process.

I feel strongly that there is another child out there for you. Wait for God's prodding - he will lead you.

I am glad that Vasya and Alex will be out of the orphanage and in a home. I pray that they will be happy and that one day they will meet their little brother Matthew.

God Bless!
Mary Lou

11:00 AM, April 03, 2008  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear your news about the boys! We know first hand how unpredictable and heart wrenching things can be with Ukraine. I will pray that someday the boys will all be reunited. I do feel that God has another child out there for you. You mentioned the possibility of a girl in one of your posts. Since you already have your paperwork there in Ukraine maybe you should see what possibilties God will open in that aspect. We never dreamt that God would lead us so far away from home for a whole month to come home empty handed. Even though our plan to adopt never worked out, we never would have had Nathaniel if it had. God has a plan for your family. We will pray that God shows you His will.

1:42 PM, April 03, 2008  
Blogger Nataliya said...

I'm so sorry to hear about it... At least you know that Alex and Vasya will be rescued from the system, and maybe that other family will get back to you after their adoption is final?

7:43 AM, April 04, 2008  
Blogger Rob, Dana, Murphy and Jack! said...

You know we're praying for you. I don't want to get your hopes up about having contact with the family but I forwarded Rob your email the other day and one of the teachers here has a brother and his wife who live on the east coast that are in the process of adopting two brothers from Ukraine, one of which they hosted a while ago. He was going to tell her about you next week when she gets back to school. She only works part time so I'll let you know.

12:35 PM, April 04, 2008  
Blogger adoptedthree said...

Cara
I am so sorry that the boys were adopted out, but at least they have been given a chance and perhaps you and the family can have a strong bond together. I know it is heartbreaking for you and your family. I do hope that you pray for what is best from this point for you. Any sibling whether bio or adopted in would be a blessing for Matthew. He would love it.

5:50 AM, April 07, 2008  
Blogger Meridith said...

I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow. Jer 31:13b

Weeping will remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning. Psalms 30:5

I share in your heartache. Tell Matthew to continue to pray because documents do not change the fact that they are brothers. Adoption is terribly painful. You went through so much with Matthew's adoption and look at the blessings that came from your suffering. Give yourself time to grieve your loss before making a decision. God certainly whispers to ou when you are still.

Many prayers for you.. Meridith

3:58 PM, April 07, 2008  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jeff, Cara & Matthew~
No words can take away your frustration, pain and sorrow. Draw strength from the Lord and know that He is working on something that is too great for you to understand right now; however, some day you will. I will keep you all in my prayers and ask that "my special Angel" continue to guide and support you during this time of need! Your in my thoughts and prayers, Lorena

5:21 PM, April 07, 2008  
Blogger Shirley and Steve said...

Thank you for your comment on our blog. I just read your story and am truly sorry that you also had to experience SDA ineptness. Trust me when I say that I have empathy with your pain. I showed your story to my wife Shirley and she could only shake her head. The SDA are experts at breaking their own laws unless of course their laws offer a quick fix to a problem (as it did in our case).

Although they're currently not with you, you can at least rejoice that these boys have been rescued from the self-destructive Ukrainian system. Keep the Faith. I know...easier said than done, trust me on that one too. But persevere and God bless...


Steve

10:07 PM, April 11, 2008  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cara, Jeff and Matthew,
We are so sorry that things did not go the way they were supposed to with adopting Vasya and Alex. We are sure that you are heartbroken and devastated by this news. Keep positive that they will at least have a opportunity of a lifetime being out of the orphanage. We will pray that the adoptive parents will receive your message and be in contact. Know that many people love and care about you and have you in their prayers. Keep hope as God has something more precious in mind for you all. We love you all.
The Erickson's

12:52 PM, April 16, 2008  

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